The Pattern

A Framework for Discernment

Personal reflection · John 5:19–20, 30

You came here because: I am facing a difficult decision

Write as much or as little as you wish. Every field is optional, and you may stop at any point.

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Observe

Jesus repeatedly spoke of His dependence on the Father. He stated that the Son could do nothing “of his own accord” but only what He sees the Father doing (John 5:19).

His practices reflected this alignment. The Gospels record that He withdrew for prayer before significant moments, such as when He spent an entire night in prayer before selecting the twelve apostles.

He did not portray Himself as an autonomous decision-maker. Instead, He modeled a pattern in which decisions remain continually accountable to mission, truth, and His relationship with the Father.

What stands out to you about Jesus’ response in this situation?

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Reflect

Respond to any of these questions — or none.

Which part of this discernment framework am I most likely to skip when I believe I already know the right answer?When a decision feels urgent, do I still pause to examine my motives and the potential impact on people?When a choice requires sacrifice, do I honestly consider who is being asked to bear the cost?Do I seek out inconvenient facts, or do I protect myself from information that might complicate my decision?

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Examine

What assumptions, motives, fears, expectations, habits, or pressures may be influencing how you see this situation?

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Pray

Ask God for the humility to slow down and see your decisions through the lens of mission, truth, and love for people.

Ask the Holy Spirit for clarity about what you may be overlooking.
Bring the people affected by this decision into prayer.

What do you want to bring into prayer?

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Discernment pause

A brief pause to slow the decision down.

What do I know to be true?
What am I assuming?
Who is affected?
What may be influencing me?
What would alignment require?
What deserves prayer before action?

What needs further discernment?

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Apply

Carry it forward

Which part of this discernment framework are you most likely to skip when you believe you already know the right answer?

One step to considerIs there one conversation, action, pause, question, or responsibility you may need to consider next?

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