Compassion in Action

When Someone Else’s Pain Interrupts Your Knowledge

Personal reflection · John 11:1–44

Write as much or as little as you wish. Every field is optional, and you may stop at any point.

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Observe

Jesus already knows what he intends to do, having told his disciples that Lazarus’s death will lead to God’s glory. Yet when he sees Mary and the others weeping, the text states that Jesus is “deeply moved in his spirit and greatly troubled” (John 11:33).

He asks where they have laid Lazarus. On the way to the tomb, Jesus weeps. The people who see his tears remark on how much he must have loved Lazarus. His weeping happens before he performs the miracle.

After sharing in their grief, Jesus directs that the stone be moved and calls, “Lazarus, come out” (John 11:43). He does not defend his delay to the grieving sisters; he first enters their sorrow and then changes their circumstances.

What stands out to you about Jesus’ response in this situation?

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Reflect

Respond to any of these questions — or none.

When I know the plan or the solution, do I view another person’s distress as temporary or unnecessary?Do I tend to explain why a decision was correct before I acknowledge the pain it may have caused someone?Am I willing to enter into someone else's sorrow, or do I feel a need to fix it immediately?

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Examine

What assumptions, motives, fears, expectations, habits, or pressures may be influencing how you see this situation?

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Pray

Ask God to grant you the grace to share in another's grief before you attempt to change their circumstances.

Ask the Holy Spirit for clarity about what you may be overlooking.
Bring the people affected by this decision into prayer.

What do you want to bring into prayer?

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Discernment pause

A brief pause to slow the decision down.

What do I know to be true?
What am I assuming?
Who is affected?
What may be influencing me?
What would alignment require?
What deserves prayer before action?

What needs further discernment?

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Apply

Carry it forward

Are you explaining a situation that someone else first needs you to enter with empathy?

One step to considerIs there one conversation, action, pause, question, or responsibility you may need to consider next?

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